Starting ABA therapy can be an emotional journey for both you and your child. You may feel a mix of excitement, anxiety, and even doubt. That’s completely normal. The good news? With a little preparation, this transition can be a positive, even empowering experience for your child and your family.
If your child has recently been diagnosed with autism, you’ve likely heard that Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapy is one of the most effective, evidence-based treatments available. Many children thrive in a clinic-based setting, where they can build social skills, increase independence, and receive structured learning opportunities.
While change can feel overwhelming at first, kids are resilient — and with the right support, they can adapt and flourish. To help them better transition into this new modality, the first step is to prepare for ABA therapy.
At Stride Autism Centers, we’ve helped countless families navigate this journey, and we’re here to make starting ABA therapy as easy and stress-free as possible for you and your child.
Understanding What to Expect from ABA Therapy
ABA is the science of learning. Short for Applied Behavior Analysis, ABA helps children acquire skills in small, manageable steps, allowing them to build on their successes over time. This process, known as scaffolding, is similar to how construction workers use supports to build higher floors. Some children pick up new skills quickly, while others need more structured guidance, and that’s okay — ABA meets each child where they are.
At Stride, therapy is designed to feel natural and fun, rather than like work. Our clinics are often described by team members and families as joyful because we believe learning should be an enjoyable experience.
At our centers, ABA therapy is play-based and personalized. We meet kiddos where they are. One little girl we worked with was hesitant at first, so her therapist spent the first sessions playing with her favorite toy — pretend food. Another child felt most comfortable wearing a lion costume, so we welcomed them every day as a little roaring cub. Small, thoughtful accommodations like these help children ease into therapy and find joy in the process.
Recently, in Iowa, there was a big snowfall. We talked to the kiddos in our Des Moines clinic about weather and winter clothing accessories and the children were fascinated by the idea of playing in the snow. With parent consent, of course, we bundled the kiddos up and incorporated sledding into the schedule. Their giggles warmed the adults better than any jacket!
Understanding the purpose behind ABA and how it works can help you prepare for ABA therapy with confidence rather than apprehension.
Preparing Emotionally: The Parent’s Role
Your mindset matters. Children pick up on their parents’ emotional cues, so the way you approach this transition will directly impact how your child feels about it.
- Frame it Positively: Prepare for ABA therapy by presenting it as an exciting new adventure. Many parents refer to it as “school” or “playtime with friends.”
- Model Calmness: Kids take cues from us. If you’re anxious, they’ll sense it. If you’re confident and upbeat, they’ll feel reassured.
- Give Yourself Grace: This is a big change for your whole family. Progress is a journey.
Creating a Positive Environment for Transition
Helping your child feel comfortable with this new change starts before their first session. Here are a few strategies to ease the transition as you prepare for ABA therapy:
- Introduce ABA Naturally: If your child enjoys books or visual stories, use them to explain what their new “school” will be like.
- Get to Know the Therapists: Ask for a picture or a short video introduction from the therapist so your child sees a familiar face before their first day.
- Make It Personal: One child we worked with insisted on bringing his favorite stuffed elephant to every session. Comfort items can make all the difference.
Establishing a Routine to Build Predictability
Predictability helps reduce anxiety. Establishing a routine before therapy begins can help set your child up for success.
- Create a Visual Schedule: A picture schedule outlining their day, including ABA therapy, can help children know what to expect.
- Plan for Transitions: If getting dressed is a challenge, consider letting your child wear pajamas to the clinic and changing there.
- Understand That Sleep & Meals Aren’t Always Perfect: Many children with autism experience sleep and eating challenges. ABA therapy can help address these issues.
Introducing Your Child to the Therapy Setting
A new environment can feel intimidating. Familiarity is key to reducing stress.
- Take a Tour: Prepare for ABA therapy by visiting the clinic with your child before their first session.
- Meet Other Kids: Arrange a playdate with another child attending the center.
- Normalize the Experience: Refer to ABA as “school” or “playtime” rather than “therapy.”
Communicating with Your Child’s Therapist
Building a strong partnership with your child’s therapy team is essential for your child to get the most out of their therapy program.
- Share Key Information: The more your child’s therapist knows about their likes, dislikes, fears, and communication style, the better they can tailor sessions.
- Ask the BCBA Questions: How will progress be tracked? What’s a typical day like? How often will parents receive updates?
- Stay Engaged: Some parents request more frequent updates in the first few days for peace of mind.
For non-verbal kiddos, let the ABA team know how your child communicates — whether through hand signs, facial gestures, or specific vocal sounds. This knowledge helps your child’s therapist better understand and support them as they prepare for ABA therapy together.
Tips for Building Comfort and Trust
Adjusting to ABA therapy is a process. Be patient with yourself and your child.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge participation, smooth transitions, or any progress.
- Use a Reward System: Whether it’s a sticker chart, extra playtime, or a special treat, find what reward motivates your child.
- Give It Time: Some children adapt quickly, while others take a few weeks. This is completely normal.
How To Prepare for ABA Therapy: Last Steps
Starting ABA therapy is a significant milestone, but with the right preparation, it can be a smooth and empowering journey. Every child is capable – they adjust in their own way – and every family’s experience is unique.
At Stride Autism Centers, we’re here to support you every step of the way. If you have questions or need guidance, reach out. Together, we’ll help your child feel ready, confident, and excited for this next chapter.
Author: Kristen Cooper, Chief Clinical Operations Officer
Kristen Cooper Borkenhagen is a Licensed and Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA) and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). Kristen is passionate about helping families achieve meaningful outcomes and has been providing behavior analytic services to individuals with developmental disabilities and their families since 2001.
Kristen earned a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Wisconsin – Madison and a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from John F. Kennedy University in Campbell, CA, before studying Applied Behavior Analysis at the Florida Institute of Technology. She held several clinical leadership positions with Trumpet Behavior Health in the San Francisco Bay Area and was the Director of Clinical Services with Achieving Collaborative Treatment in Verona, WI. The thing that excites her most about the science of behavior is its application to empower parents to create what matters most to them.
Kristen lives in Madison, WI, with her husband, three kids, two cats, and six chickens. In her free time, she enjoys reading, creative projects, outdoor adventures with her family, and fostering kittens with a local animal rescue.
